A Beginners Guide To Shower Sex

Article By Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters Images: courtesy of Masseur Mack at Massage 33


Safety First!

Let’s start with the obvious: safety. Even at the most mundane of times, showers can be accident prone places. Add to this the obviously wet and soapy environment curious positions, distracted attention and orgasmic highs the potential for a slipped disc or bruised bottom are considerable. It is vital that before embarking on any aqua adventure in the shower, precautions must be taken. So as not to ruin the spontaneity of the moment it is sensible to get the safety features in place beforehand.

A non-slip shower matt is essential. Something firm to grip on for leverage for both him and her, so install some solid handrails (not suction or plastic as these liable to snap or fall off mid thrust). Make sure you have plenty of space, the modern walk-in integrated showers are best rather than the shower enclosures, and if it’s a one-person shower you may need to reserve the more intense activity for the bathroom floor and just keep the shower for the foreplay.

Don’t Use Condoms…

Another important safety note: condoms aren’t reliable in the shower. They are prone to slipping off more easily and can degrade during contact with the water. So make sure you have a second mode of pregnancy and/or STI prevention.

…But Do Use Lube

Water may appear to be a handy lubricant, but actually, it dries up natural vaginal lubrication and can make penetration uncomfortable. Whether vaginal or anal penetration is involved in your shower sexercises, you are going to need additional lubrication even if you don’t use it normally.

Soap or shower gel is not an advisable alternative as it may irritate and cause discomfort due to the perfumes and chemicals some soaps include.

Water-based lubes will wash away, so make sure your lube is silicone-based. It can withstand contact with water for a pretty long time. Just don’t forget to wash it off with soap afterwards, and keep in mind that silicone lubes can ruin silicone sex toys.

Standing Up

Dependent on size, by that I mean shower size you are probably going to be limited in the variety of positions available to you. If you’re having any sort of penetrative sex, it is best to be standing up, both facing in the same direction. The partner being penetrated can place their hands against the wall (not the shower door as it may fly open) for leverage. The person doing the penetrating can also push against the wall or can hold on to one of the handles. It’s best not to use your partner for leverage since if one of you slips you are likely both come crashing down and it won’t be screams or pleasure, you’ll be making.

Height matters

If heterosexual coupling then the guy may be taller than the girl, if gay or lesbian then height discrepancy may not be a factor. Never the less the temptation to stand on something to aid access to penetration is not a good idea. Have the shorter person stand more upright and the taller widen their stance or squat a bit.

Now that we have got the more practical stuff out the way here are some suitable and some imaginative positions for great shower sex.

The Back Scrub

A variation on the traditional doggy style with the receiver facing forwards and the giver behind penetration vaginally or anally can be accompanied by the scrubbing of the back with a loofa or shower brush. Ther combination of sensations will heighten the experience rather than distract.

Romance under the waterfall

Quite a simple and safe option is the Waterfall when both face one another, and if heights are comparable, then the guy penetrates face forward. If the receiver is shorter, then they may have to be lifted and held up with their legs wrapped around the giver. In either case, let the warm water cascade over you both as you hug and embrace one another.

Surfing the wave

A variation on the cowgirl, Surfing the wave can only be achieved if there is enough floor space in the shower. The giver lays on the floor, and the receiver kneels astride. Because of the hard floor, it may be more comfortable for the receiver to kneel on some waterproof cushions or at least some flannels under each knee to avoid abrasions. Once in position have the shower directed over the giver’s stomach, so you both feel the sensation of the warm flow between your bodies.

Great sex in the shower should not always include penetration so here are a couple of not penetrative options to consider.

Clitoral Water Massage

If you have a power shower that has adjustable shower flows then turn it into the most direct water jet and turn the temperature down to about  35c. The female then sits on the shower floor with her back resting against the wall with her legs apart exposing her vagina. Ask her to close her eyes then slowly steer the jet of water over her body. Starting at her feet, working up to the calves and thighs, teasingly slow. Direct the flow into her groin area ( the sensitive part where the leg attaches to torso) and then when she can take no more gently take the flow over her clitoris. With your other had spread her vaginal lips apart and then water massage her to orgasm in an on-off motion, 10 seconds on her clit then 15 seconds off, then 10 seconds on again until she reaches orgasm.

If you are giving this to a man then direct the water jet on to the front side of his cock particularly around the Frenulum, This is the V-shaped part under the head of the penis where the glans meets the shaft. It has some sensitivity to it, but less than the glans itself. You can also ask him to turn and bend over and then direct the jet on to the sensitive skin around his anus and perineum the area between the anus and the scrotum.

The Golden Shower Shower

If a couple has never explored mutual urination better known as the golden shower, then trying this out for the first time in the shower is probably the best place to start. Urinating together may to some seem quite bizarre, but for others, it can create a deep sense of connection. To make the experience even closer helping one another by the man supporting his woman by holding her under armpit as she urinates or she holding his penis as he responds can bring a remarkable level of trust and intimacy. Of course for the truely adventurous peeing over one another is also an option. Soap and water easily at hand to wash up afterwards.

A shower is also a great place for anal play, especially if you’re usually a bit squeamish about the back door. You get the reassurance of knowing that everything is perfectly clean right before getting started. So exploring in the shower your first experience with prostate massagers and strap-ons can lessen the chance of any awkward mishaps.

A final piece of advice is to make sure there is a lock on the bathroom door. If you don’t live alone, then children or housemates barging in will certainly ensure many embarrassing stories in the future.

Don’t Limit Yourselves to Penetration

Remember, intercourse isn’t the only way to have sex, and other intimate activities can be more suited to the shower. Fellatio enthusiasts can have their guy stand at the edge of the shower head’s radius so that the water is being deflected by his back and not getting into your eyes (it also helps to have a cushy bath mat to protect your knees). Or, use some silicone lube to give an extra-slippery handjob. Push your lady against the wall of the shower and finger her from behind. You can also bring waterproof (emphasis on waterproof) sex toys into the shower to help get each other off with less effort. A shower is also a great place for anal play, especially if you’re usually a big squeamish about the back door. You get the reassurance of knowing that everything is perfectly clean right before getting started.

You can also use the shower as foreplay. Tease your partner by letting them watch you clean yourself, but forbidding them from joining you. Or you can make out and taunt each other with your hands and mouths, then move out of the shower to finish each other off (perhaps on a sturdy counter in your bathroom?)

Give the Tub a Try

Bathtub sex doesn’t tend to get as much attention as shower sex, but it can be just as fun. If you’re having penetrative sex, the penetrated partner can get on top facing towards or away from their partner. They can prop themselves up on their feet, and can use their hands on the tub rim for even more leverage. Or the catcher can sit in the pitcher’s lap, and they can grind against each other. Be conservative with how high to fill the tub unless you want to spend your post-orgasm afterglow mopping up the mess!

If you’re lucky enough to have some jets in your tub, you can strategically line up against the stream for some delightful pressure in all the right places. Revel Body makes a product called the Sol that creates a wonderfully unique suction sensation in the bath, perfect for nipples and other sensitive spots.

Keep It Quick

I highly recommend going for a quickie when you’re having shower sex. It can make the experience feel that much more intense and passionate, not to mention save you from sore limbs, pruney fingers, and irritation from soaps and other bath products. Remember; you can always continue after you get out!